Any headline like this from the weekend's Wall Street Journal,
July 7-8, 2018,
will get my attention because self-control and learning go
hand-in-hand. Self-control, often called emotional regulation, is one
of those "soft skills", an "executive function" that schools look for
when considering students for admission.
Teacher recommendation forms ask the current teacher to rate the
degree to which a candidate exhibits emotional control in many areas of
school life. This article reflects on research about the connection of
school success and self-control. "Growing research finds that children
who are able to regulate their emotions perform better academically and
are more successful socially than those who don't. In adolescence,
strong self-regulation skills can help to buffer against impulsiveness
and risky behaviors."
A 30-year study at the University of North Carolina by Dr. Susan
Calkins suggests that parents are key role models for their children in
how to behave. A study of German families found that when parents helped
their child reframe a situation with a more positive view, the child
was better able to cope with disappointment and adopt this strategy in
the future. "Self-regulation offers big payoffs as we age, including
better physical and mental health." Children need tools for handling
life's challenges. If you wish to learn more about this topic, contact
me and I will send you some excellent resources.